Therapy Nerd Confession: I love Theories

If you know me professionally or academically, you already know this about me: I am a huge therapy nerd. I love theories! I was the weirdo in grad school who read all of the recommended texts and “optional reading” for classes. I’m probably going to enjoy writing this post more than most people will enjoy reading it, so to make things interesting, I have likened these theories to different kinds of sandwiches. I imagine most people enjoy sandwiches. Here we go!

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy- PB&J

This model, also called CBT for short, is a good staple in the therapy world. A true workhorse. This is the PB&J of therapy land (or maybe grilled cheese?). I and many others love this because it has so much research behind it and just like the sandwiches mentioned above, is consistent about providing positive, reliable results. This approach is largely about building insight and greater control of our thoughts, feelings and behavior and is great for a variety of mental health concerns (anxiety, trauma, etc). Another thing I like about this approach is that it is very generous with tools, strategies and education which can be so empowering.

Polyvagal Theory- Hot Dog 

This model is not really a stand-alone approach to counseling. It is more about information and perspectives that can enhance an already existing treatment approach, such as CBT, but it is still powerful and interesting enough that it can make a big impact. Like a hot dog, it’s not really a sandwich, and people have many opinions about that fact, but is still a bread and meat thing you eat with your hands and is very satisfying. Polyvagal Theory is all about understanding the mind-body connection through the nervous system, and learning ways to resolve tension and fear and bring in a sense of peace and connection to the mind and body. Like hot dogs, I love how versatile this theory can be, depending on how you serve it and dress it up. The possibilities are endless and delightful!

Internal Family Systems- Torta 

This model, also called IFS for short, seems complicated at first, and maybe kind of is in some ways, but once you try it, it just makes sense, not unlike a torta. This approach to therapy leans into the idea that there are different “parts” of us that sometimes want different things, and is all about learning to be with and heal the many parts of us. Like a torta, this model has many layers: some of which are unexpected, but all of which compliment each other. And that’s one thing I love about IFS. In this approach, all our parts need to be seen and respected, and can each take on an important and beneficial role in our lives.

Person Centered - Sub Sandwich

You know how it is when you walk into a sub shop: you walk up to the glass and the employee on the other side waits for you to tell them what you want. This is very similar to a Person Centered approach. There is no *one way* to make a sub. You get to decide. You’re the boss of your sub. This model is beautiful to me because it trusts in the in-born power of each person to grow, heal and find meaning. You have the answers in you. My role as the therapist is to hear and acknowledge and hold space for your sandwich creation with a heart of acceptance as I journey with you along that plexiglass stroll. This model is about trust in yourself and others, and the power of human connection. 

Do you agree with my sandwich selections for these theories? Which of them resonates with you the most?

Hope to hear from you soon,

Olivia